Wednesday, January 24, 2007

A bit about JC...

I might have mentioned before that JC was diagnosed being ADHD and most likely could have around the age of 3. Yes 3. All signs pointed that way anyways. As a mommy, the hardest decision was to 1) admit there was a problem 2) ask for help from the doctors 3) place my son on medication. Oh yeah, and find out that he had a fine motor delay with writing ( he was ambidextrous as well)and that he has (but not officially diagnosed) sensory integration. It's been a busy year...doctors, OT, counselors, and the list goes on...

About 9 months ago JC was put on medications and there was an immediate difference. Now, after changing medications about 3 times, he was able to start school successfully, but just had what I would call typical 5 year old behaviors. What kid wants to sit still and write, not to mention when that child has a fine motor delay with writing? So, he did better than expected with starting school, a few bumps for the first month, but he did well.

For the last few months I've questioned everything from my parenting skills to my own temperament on how best to help JC. Despite making many changes in our house to help him, he still threw horrible tantrums, had racing thoughts and speech and many more things to throw in there too. You see, JC is a very emotional, perceptive, intelligent little man, he knows how to work ya. He tells me that "Miss Teacher likes it when I get in trouble because she's always smiling when she yells at me." Not to mention my least favorite to hear as a parent with a child in parochial school. "God doesn't like tattle-tales" which was his answer to why he didn't tell the teacher about kids making fun of him. He hears and can recite anything, even or more so when you least expect it too...

He hasn't been sleeping well for the last few months whether it was nightmares or his new behaviors of sleep walking. Yup, at grandma's he was found standing over Grandpa(??) and at home he was up in the middle of the night screaming in the living room. What we thought was a typical up with a bad dream was a whole lot more. We were tucking him in and noticed that his one sock was wet. Thinking he stepped in something we brushed it off and thought no more of it. Gave him hugs and I went into the kitchen and my heart dropped. The back door was wide open. It seems that the our sleepwalker opened the back door, put one foot onto the wet ground and went running into the living room. Talk about not sleeping for the rest of the night. I would have never thought at the age of 6 that we would have to put the baby gate up again.

So with the lack of sleep and outrageous behaviors we have decided to take an impromptu trial of being off the medication. Last pill was Friday and he has been wonderful. I even noticed that he was walking into school, not his usual running, skipping, bumping into the walls. His speech has slowed down,but quieter. He has even started martial arts this past week. It looks promising. I can only hope.

I don't regret putting my child on medications and I wouldn't regret putting him back on. It gave him a chance not to struggle like he was a year ago. It's just amazing what a change I've seen in the last week. Now I wonder if he still needs it, or if it's just that medication making him worse. Only time can tell, meds or not.

2 comments:

Peanut Butter and Jelly Boats said...

Did yo take him off cold turkey or little by little? It sounds like one hard decision after another. I don't know about you but parenting is MUCH harder than I thought it would be! By the way, yes, I did go to Tball!

donut said...

Yup, cold turkey.
I have to say, he has been wonderful. His teacher would say otherwise, but I think she is *too* hard on the kids. Nun like, I would say, except she's not one.

Parenting is a whole lot differnet than what I thought, but like you know,I wouldn't trade it for anything. I wish we had another, but that's a whole entire story itself. Always hope for it...

Who was your first grade teacher? Were we in the same class? I still can't believe it's been 21 years since we wathced the shuttle launching...