Monday, August 13, 2007

It ain't always easy lady...

During JC's tour of his new school on Friday, my husband and I starting talking to this mother of three. Actually, her oldest daughter will be in the same first grade class as JC and she is one of the cutest little girls I have ever seen! The woman went on to ask us the typical questions, but she physically moved her head around us to see if we had any more children and asked "Just one?". We replied and her reaction has been stuck in my head all weekend...

"Wow, you have it easy!"

First of, I believe that no parents have it easy, especially depending on how many children God has blessed you with. We laughed it off and joked that JC makes up for it and left it at that. Me? I've been chewing on it. I'm overly sensitive these days.
Sure I don't have a screaming child on my hip and in the stroller, but that doesn't mean my one child is any easier.

I know the statement wasn't meant in the way I'm taking it, but no one should ever assume that just one kid is any easier. You know what they say about "assume" right?

It kind of hurt and touched a delicate nerve as well. I didn't want just one and now it seems that it's pointed out as a flaw. There's nothing I wouldn't give to be a mother of two or three. I'd give my left kidney at this point. A little overly sensitive aren't I huh?

Whew! because having just one isn't any easier than 2 or 3. Heck could you imagine 17? Once again, no matter how may children you have, parenting is not easy.

5 comments:

Peant Butter and Jelly Boats said...

Sometimes I think it's easier to have more. There are times in my day when my kids are playing or at least entertaining each other. With one, I think it would be harder because you have to be the entertainment constantly. Also, If I'm struggling with the baby, I always have 2 helpers. With one- it's just you.
She doesn't know what she's talking about.

Adventures In Babywearing said...

I was going to say exactly what Sheryl said- but first of all- I can't believe what comes out of people's mouths sometimes. How rude.

I *do* think sometimes that having more than one is easier in the long-run because they do have each other to keep company and don't require as much attention from just me. But then in the same respect, I wish I did have more one-on-one time with each of them, could really experience a bit more with them individually- there is a bond with a mother and just one child that you don't always have the opportunity with multiple children. I think there are blessings for us all whether we are Moms of one or seventeen (yikes!)

Steph

pinks & blues girls said...

People are really insensitive sometimes. Think before you speak... isn't that something we all learned back in elementary school!? Geesh.

Jane, P&B Girls

Hole said...

OMG...that is really rude. It sounds like one of those backhanded compliments. I don't have any children, and personally I think one would be quite difficult and I don't think I can handle it. I'm only 30 so I have still have time (if I can even have kids), but I have OCD and I think it might just push me over the edge. And like you said it wasn't your choice to just have one, and people are fucking stupid. I'm sorry....

My Wonderful Men..... said...

People are not real bright, I have one bio and one step. I get that same thing all the time too. It throws me into a rag & depression everytime. I would still today give anything for more children. Trust me more children is easier then one, anytime my stepson is around or a friend for my son it's much easier.