Thursday, November 08, 2007

So it begins

As parents of a young child, we have spent the last almost 7 years teaching him right from wrong. We have tried to instill in him the difference between the two and consequences that may or not follow wrong decisions.

So it begins, how to make a child know and learn that they made a "bad choice" in how they handled themselves in the mean cruel world that they call grade school. What's going on? JC got his first real grounding last night. Not the "you loose TV for the night" or "go to your room to chill". A real punishment with sentence writings and all, except part of it back fired on me.

I sat him down, explained to him what he did wrong and we as parents gave him his grounding. In this said punishment, it included chores and duties. While it was being told to him that he would have to vacuum all floors in the house and then swiffer all the hard wood floors and kitchen. He got excited! The little shit(yes I can call him that, I carried him for 9 months) was so excited to clean, he didn't take it as a grounding at all. He jumped up right then and there and started, no questions asked. He then asked to do the dishes? Where did I go wrong? I should have had him doing this along!

Well, seeing as that didn't work, i further explained to JC that he would have chores every night , which includes cleaning his room and packing up his old toys. Finally! something got to him, he wsan't excited about this in the least bit. Is that mean? I was searching for something that would be a clue to him that he was still in trouble. I suppose I wanted it to sink in that he does have consequences for getting in trouble. So he is grounded for 4 days, no tv, no video games, no computer, chores and extra school work. That isn't harsh is it? I will say this, it ends up being more of a punnishment to parents when your child is grounded from things doesn't it? Which stinks seeing that I wanted to to something fun this weekend.

I am not looking forward to the teen years at all. I will just stay pleasantly naive and will keep thinking this will be the worst it can get( even though it wasn't all that bad) and that this one time of trouble making will be it and there won't be anymore. I 'm dreaming aren't I?

11 comments:

Adventures In Babywearing said...

Oh my- I might be watching & learning from your experience!

Steph

My Wonderful Men... said...

Teen years are dealing with they know all. Drives you crazy*!#$*%** and if you are already crazy like myself, well you just get more crazy.

Shelli said...

Enjoy his excitment for cleaning now...Oldest loved to clean, he would beg to sweep floors. Now he sits in the easy chair with his ipod and says, "give me a few minutes."

Grounding is great, if you can stick with it. Chief and I are huge marshmallows and never stuck to it. We've been down the sentance road, etc. A parent has to find something that works, I always thought when my kids were toddlers they would stay in time out, who is the idiot that makes up these rules? Good luck and I hope it all resolves soon!

Peant Butter and Jelly Boats said...

We had a similar situation. Ben got on "yellow" at school. Staying on "green" was such a big deal to him we thought for sure that would be discipline enough. Until he said, "you know, being on yellow isn't so bad. It's not like I'm on red." Sigh. I was hoping it would take him longer to realize that those things are dumb and really mean nothing at all.

I don't think you were too hard on him. I kind of think you have to be more strict during these young years and then maybe they will cause less trouble during the older years. Of course, this is just a theory as I have no older children.

To Think is to Create said...

I'm with Sheryl...my philosophy is going to be strict now so later isn't so hard. At least, I know that's probably the way my kids will roll (since its how they are even now).

Mimi's Toes said...

Why does Nanny 911 make it look so easy?

More Than A Single Mom said...

Oh yeah, this is nothing. Do not fret over the grounding! Once I grounded Missy from all her movies and the next day she walked past me and said to her teacher, "Psssst. I am not really grounded." HuH? What??? So I was all dramatic and boxed up EVERY movie she can watch and put them in the garage ---- for two weeks! I was so ticked off.

InTheFastLane said...

sometimes they gotta push your limits a little. My 8 year old is pushing a lot of them lately.

KT said...

Isn't it awful when we feel remorse for doling out the punishment they deserve? ;-)

It is so hard to be hard on such sweet kids, but you're right, you have to teach them there are consequences for their actions. Even if it means taking away every toy, every piece of furniture from their room!

And if you're lucky, which you are, you find they actually like certain punishments (wow, housecleaning, really?) that are helpful to you! This could turn into a really great chore chart for son, and a nice timesaver for mom and dad!

Loved your posting, and Wednesday's pictures too! Katie

Teena said...

He got excited about cleaning? How about sending him to our place? I can keep him busy for a day or two!!! :)

This Mama's Trip said...

We are the same person. Freaky. It's like I wrote the post myself! I hate taking anything away from my kids (TV, video games, ect.) because I always end up caving before the end of the "grounding" period because they are driving me nuts!! Plus, I want to do fun things and go places...I don't want to stay at home with kids who are driving me crazy because they are not allowed to do anything. Grounding sucks. I am trying to think of something more effective...like they have to pay me money when they misbehave. Maybe that would work...but where would they get thier money...oh, yeah...from me! I never win.