Monday, March 31, 2008

My lines, my body and the choices I made.


I took this photo of myself on Saturday. It was chilly and the brisk wind was streaming through my coat causing me to shiver for the few hours we were out.

As always, as soon as I got home I examined all the photos that were taken. This shot caught my eye. Why? This photo captured me in a way I had never seen myself. A moment of not being made up, raw, cold, so very cold and real. My lines, my wrinkles, my face and my body not aging gracefully.

It occurred to me that I have never chosen a routine of skin care to "age proof" myself. Being under 30, I had never considered it to be very important before. Now, I'm a bit worried. What are things that you do? SPF's? Moisturizer? Oil of olay? What are some of your skin secrets?

I wonder what my face will show in 10 years. Are the years of smoking since age 15 showing? (I quit last year) Are the crow's feet from squinting so much? All the time spent in the tanning salon, is it aging me already? Will my laugh lines show soon? The questions that I should have asked my self a few years ago...

Don't get me wrong, I have no problems with aging or growing older. Often I tell my aging patients that people aren't old until they are in the ground or sitting on top of the mantle. Death makes you old, until then, you are young and still in the game.

My problem is that I never took care of myself, my skin, my body. How fast is it going to start showing up now? I wanna be that 90 year old still roller skating, golfing, dancing. Hell, walking for that matter. Do you worry about the choices you made in the past and how they may have affected you? What would you have done differently?

If only I could go back 10 years and whisper to myself to take care of myself, eat right, exercise and protect the precious body and face I have been given.

Starting new routines and changes are very hard for me. I'm in need of a new routine, a "save your self" change/new routine. Hard part, I never know where to start. I suppose I'll have to start somewhere. I do hope to be that aged gracefully 90 year old something...




23 comments:

Carrington said...

It's great that you are thinking about these things. Quitting smoking was probably the BEST thing you could have done for yourself! It's not too late girl! You are SO beautiful.

Lost A Sock said...

Wow, I am so with you on this one. I've never had a beauty routine that involved anything like a moisturizer. I've even been known to go through periods where washing my face for bed was too much of a process, thus allowing my makeup to melt off my face as I slept.

Good for you, getting things together! I'm a summer shy of thirty. Maybe it's my time, too.

(I really like that picture, also.)

Sadie said...

You know my mom tried to warn me when I was younger to take care of my skin and my face...and now that I'm in my *gulp* 30's...I'm starting to wish I'd listened. But I'm doing what I can now (the oil cleansing method...but using regular oil of olay to combat the dryness the oil causes)...and hoping it's enough.

I've tried the wrinkle treatments and the age-defying facial scrubs...nothign has really worked. I'll stick with the oil cleansing method (which has been working the bst and boy is my skin soft)...and hope for the best...and make sure I teach my daughters better (not that they'll listen any more than I did!)!!

my wonderful men... said...

I don't do anything special never have. Regular soap to wash and then cream to keep dryness away.

I have never smoked or been a sun bather. I burn like crazy in the sun.

I was the one in the family with a baby face so I'm not sure if that is part of it or just the soap and cream regularly that has kept my face looking what I think is pretty good for 39yrs and 11mos.

I will say it's never ever to late to start taking care of yourself.

Trust me, if you start now and in five years look back you will say wow! look at how much I aged from
18yrs. to 25yrs., but I've only aged this much since I started taking care of myself.

I think you may even see an improvement because you stopped smoking. You are so pretty! Washing and moisturizing is so important to healthy skin but it doesn't have to be fancy and expensive stuff either. Infact the fancy and expensive stuff makes my face break out FYI.

Don't make it a chore.
Remember we all want to see your pretty face on your blog so take care of it please.

Lynette said...

I think you're way too hard on yourself, but then again aren't we all?

A year or two ago I went and had my very first facial and I was amazed at how good my skin felt afterwards. I would highly recommend getting one. It was completely relaxing and refreshing.

As far as a routine, I don't have one. I need to, but there are just too many products out there that I am at a loss. Which does what and when to use which makes me more confused. I need it to be quick, easy and fairly inexpensive.

Mimi's Toes said...

I have such an easy routine and I faithfully stick to it. I wash my face every night before bed with Dove, cucumber/melon facial wipes. It's great cause a month supply comes in the package. You don't have to stain up a wash cloth. I then moisturize with Clinique lotion and that's it on the cleansing part. I use Arbonne product for under my puffy eyes in the morning before applying my make-up, which is all Clinique. I am always told that I still have that youthful face which is great to hear at my age. I've never smoked but I use to be a sun bather...not anymore though. I started wearing Mary K as a teen but became allergic to it in my older years and switched to Clinique....Love those bonus times when you get the products for cheap. You are naturally georgeous my dear!

Mimi's Toes said...

p.s. I left this out....I use cheap baby oil on a cotton ball to take off my eye make-up at night.

Autumn said...

I've been wondering more and more about this. I don't feel exceptionally wrinkled, but my skin is just....well, ....dull. Just blah. And I ook at my mom's glowing skin and wonder how I got the short end of the stick? I have been using Dove regularly (soap and lotion) and I have noticed some difference. Apparently being all dry and cracked isn't hot? Huh, well there goes my life long beauty plan.

The Flip Flop Mamma! said...

Hold on while I open up my soap box...ok, the other day at church someone asked my husband how old he was "30." then they asked how old I was because they thought I looked so young and he was nasty (heehee) "29." he said. He then told her that I've done everything in my power to avoid the sun since I was in highschool so that I would age gracefully and it's working (and boy have I got the pearly white legs to prove it!) haha. But, you can't very well go back and undo going to the tanning bed can you?? I'd say find a good (healthy) moisturizer with spf 15, and just made sure you wash your face before you go to bed at night. It's that easy!!! and yay for you for quitting smoking!!! I know it's hard, I quit back in 99!! Almost 10 years ago, wow! And I still have cravings! Ugh.

A Box of Chocolates said...

I use the Proactiv system and it has really helped my complexion, but is not all that for wrinkles and aging so I enjoyed hearing what everybody had to say. I am hitting the big 3-0 in June and should start thinking about this. I am a big time sun person (I know...you can stop lecturing now) with living at the beach. I did recently start wearing sunscreen on my face so maybe it won't be to late. A huge congrats to you for being able to quit smoking!!

Ellinghouse said...

I hear ya! I did the tan bed....I don't wash my face at night....but I do wear a good cream during the day. I do love the photo you took!

SJ said...

Oh I so hear you on this! I had a revelation myself not that long ago about this very same thing.

I do love that photo though...

And if I find any magic secrets, I'll let you know.

More Than A Single Mom said...

Wow. This was about the last blog I should've read just days before my 29th birthday! I don't do any of this stuff either. My grandma used Oil of Olay. Hmmmm, wonder what my mom uses. I should look into this too, huh?

Glass Half Full said...

Oh how I wish I used more sunscreen and stayed away from tanning beds....

sigh.

Lori

Teena said...

I've never taken care of my skin. But I started using moisturizer within the last six months ago and my face feels better as it was starting to feel dry. There's so much more I can be doing ... but at least I'm doing something now.

Peanut Butter and Jelly Boats said...

I just use a moisturizer with an spf 15-30 in it.

But here's the thing. We're looking at this all wrong. Did you know every crease and wrinkle represents something in your life. Your first kiss, when you pushed out that precious little baby, every time you've laughed till you cried, etc. You have to embrace the wonderful almost 30 years you've had and let your face/skin tell the story of your life!

Crooked Eyebrow said...

PB&J- I agree. I will see my laugh lines as years of enjoyment. The frown lines will help me remember when I was looking for better times.

So I agree totally, I'll wear my wrinkles with pride.

My skin is just awful lately and I'm in some need of help and or suggestions.

Great point!

Stacie said...

OMGosh, were you in my bathroom mirror this morning?

I have the same thoughts, concerns and down right annoyed feelings about my own face.

I still smoke, that is half of my problem. Sun damage is the other and yeah, I guess being in my 30s is all par for course.

I have started in the last few years applying sunscreen on my face and whole body in the summer. I have been thrilled with the amount of tan I still get even wearing protection.

I just picked up CG Smoothers (or something like that) it is a tinted spf moisturizer. SO far, I like it.

I need to work on the non smoking thing...but I am not ready to just yet.

Laurie & Chris said...

I put coco butter on my face right before bed every night and clean my face with sea breeze in the am. I don't wear makeup at all. When I was younger I did but now I dont bother.Hope you find something that works for you.

To Think is to Create said...

I've seen you in person, and I remember what gorgeous skin you have. So, I'm sure by "awful" you mean a little bad, and there's plenty of time to fix that if you want to.

I just turned 30 last week and even though I'm not in the best shape or the most gorgeous and young I've ever been, I'm comfortable with *me* and am working on the outside. I think that working from the inside out gets you to that place of beauty that people remark about and desire for themselves. That "glow" will come, just seek it. :)

PinksandBluesGirls said...

Geez... I have never done anything either. The only thing I do is out moisturizer on every night. My husband's grandmother had the most flawless sking I had ever seen. She was 87 when she passed... her secret? Good ol' Vaseline. She used to put it in her sking every night. I swear that's the secret. I should start doing this... otherwise I'm going to be that crazy, wrinkly lady - mother to "all those kids!"
xo,
Audrey

Crooked Eyebrow said...

My aunt and sister swear by vasoline at night! Mostly around the eyes.

Hey It's cheap, I should try!

Ann(ie) said...

I didn't start taking care of my skin until my early thirties religiously. Now I use a cleanser and moisturizer morn and night. I love me some Mary Kay and it's not very pricey and neutrogena's a goodie, too. So's Arbonne but it's expensive. AND you look good in that picture, darlin!!!!