Friday, June 26, 2009

slight panic

Pulling into babies'r'us yesterday shocked me just a little bit. That was one store I thought I was done with. (not to mention they are way overpriced and always out of stock). It's been almost 9 years since I had to register for JC and things have changed.

Walking by the car seats and the strollers I became very nauseous because I could not believe how expensive things have gotten in 9 years. What I paid for a stroller and car seat travel system then, now only covers the cost of a low end car seat. Shit...this is going to be expensive....

That in itself brings me to another worry...what kind of car seat do I get? For $100 I can get this hunk of plastic with an obnoxious print and no padding for my little girl, but will it protect her? Does buying a $300 car seat and better cushion really protect her more in a crash? Seriously folks, not only am starting to panic about having to re-buy so many items, but picking the "right" ones is making it harder.

As I walked down the isles my chest started to get tight just trying to add up how much this is all going to cost....

a new swing $120
highchair $120
car seat/stroller $290
bedding $150+
crib mattress $50+

oh my gosh, that's not even adding in clothes, diapers, wipes.

Shit.

Time to hit the resale shops I'm thinking.

With rushing thoughts my panic is starting to set in.... her room in no where near cleared out, there are no ideas what to put in there for her, I'm going to be a mom again!, breast feeding, how do I pick out good products to buy?, diapers, having to get everything all over again, diapers, maternity leave, day care, $200 car seats!, and I am having a girl....oh my.


normally I would have added that I needed a drink, but lemonade will have to do.

15 comments:

Sarah said...

Here's a quick tip for you...all car seats MUST match Federal standards so the $300 car seat is no better than the $40 car seat at Wal Mart (except in label). Hope that eases your hyperventilating a little.

But I've been where you are - Brandon was 7 when I got pregnant with Riley...and the prices were nuts...they still are. I hate that.

Adventures In Babywearing said...

Resale is great, but you also have handmedowns from us- don't forget. I'm betting by the time you need a highchair I'll have mine to pass on! Car seats... don't worry about that until she's bigger- Ivy just moved into hers at about 8 months. You always have Christmas lists to make up, too! : )

Steph

Kim said...

I agree with everyone else. I'll send you the MilkBank (I haven't forgotten, PROMISE!) and a dress or two for her :)
We like the Britax carseats (Marathon) not only for the safety of them, but for the comfort for the kiddos. But, they start out using the Graco infant seat until they are too big for it.
Just remember to breathe and go thrift store shopping!

chrissy said...

Hang in there and breath deep!!

*Lissa* said...

Deep breaths!

You have wonderful friends who I KNOW will help you out as much as possible. I agree with the above commenter on the car seats.

When the twins were in diapers (granted, that was YEARS ago) I saved money by buying the White Cloud diapers from Wal-Mart and liked them better than the name brands.

XOXO

roxymommy said...

Definitely hit up the consignment shops for stuff like swings, high chairs, bouncy seats, etc. We had a full sized swing for CD but when my niece was born we gave them our swing and got a little portable one. I love the portable one so much better and it was cheaper!

The Fritz Facts said...

Car seats are expensive, but they are the same except for padding, they have to be by law. You will be fine if you get from Target or Baby's R Us.

Resale shops are the best place. The only things we bought new when Boo was born was her car seat and her crib. Everything else was garage sales and thrift stores. Much easier in my mind.

Crooked Eyebrow said...

Thanks everyone!

I figured the car seat is the most import to start off with for buying new...

With JC he lived in his swing, so that is surely on the list to pick up too.

I'm not overwhelmed by having to spend or get things, it just really hit me yesterday that it's really happening!

Ryley said...

my advise for car seats is to go to babies r' us and test them all. Hold them.. take them off the base and put them back on, do and undo all the buckels raise and lower the handle. feel so the handle feels in your hand and on your arm and the weight of the car seats.
Then pick your favorite and hit the internet! You can find them so much cheaper. We have done this with EVERYTHING. BRU has a great selection so you can "test drive" everything there.

p.s. we REALLLY love our Chicco Key Fit 30 car seat.. ohhh. it's soooo amazing.. and worth every penny..

Things we also splurged on that I would spend a million times more on are:
AngelCare monitor that detects breathing so you know the baby is safe in the other room. and our
Summers video monitor.

You are right.. everything is soooo expensive. But at the same time, you dont want to regret going for the cheapest thing and totally regreting it!

Good luck...

Erin said...

As far as bedding goes...you don't have to buy the bedding in a bag. Just buy a bumper, some matching sheets, and a blanket! It's cheaper!

Erin said...

Honestly, I don't see a great deal of difference between Luke's crazy expensive Britax and the $50 Cosco seat my parents have for him. Buy what you can afford! Also, like someone else said, you don't really need crib bedding. Just get a fitted sheet and maybe some bumper pads, and you're good to go. Also, every so often, we get Babies R Us coupon books in the mail. I'll start emailing you with what we get and if you can use a coupon, it's yours. For example, they just had 15% off of all nursery items, which would include a crib mattress.
I would really suggest checking out a book called Baby Bargains. It helped me SO much when I was pregnant with Luke! If you want, I can loan you our copy, though some of the information may be out of date. Check Amazon, because you can usually find that book brand new on Amazon for pretty cheap.

livinginagirlsworld said...

I want to put in my 2 cents about the high chair. We didn't do a high chair for any of my 3. We bought a $20 booster seat with a tray at Wal-Mart. It attaches to a standard chair with 2 straps - one around the seat and one around the back of the chair. In the early days when they started eating, I would prop them up with a towel. My youngest, at 3-1/2, has just decided to give it up.

Sheryl said...

You can have our infant car seat, & swing. But also, you don't have to have EVERYTHING right away. Just take it a day at a time. Stuff will come. Just take a deep breath and enjoy your little baby girl.

Christy M. said...

I have a breast pump that was used 4x if you're interested. You can buy new tubing and breast shields. Its one of the kind that's sealed so, it safe to resell (Ameda is the brand).

As far as car seats, definitely hit resale and hit up your friends!! I personally read every review out there, before I purchased, because while they are all the same based on regulations, they are not based on functionality. Trust me. Functionality is important, too!

Take some deep breaths!! Everything will fall into place :) Maybe you'll get some awesome stuff to review!!!

Love and kisses.

Elaine A. said...

I'm gonna go in the hole just buying clothes and cute shoes on etsy. Everything is SO tempting!!

But yes, re-sale shops are great and see if you friends have anything they are ready to part with!