Quite honestly, I have been trying to find the positives in things lately. At work and at home. Then,while I was driving into work today a Chicago Radio Station Morning Crew were all talking about positive reinforcement and praise. Who doesn't love getting praise, right?
Of course the topic of children were the spotlight for a few segments and the one thing that spoke to me was that we now reward our children for every little thing that they do, that they are developing an inflated sense of entitlement. A few years ago I would have not agreed. I would have said, "No, these kids need it." Not anymore...
and by reward I mean tangible gifts, I am ALL for verbal praise!
Well after doing this exact thing and seeing more kids JC's age, *some* children will not do anything with out getting a reward. Like chores, for example. In my house growing up you had to do them and not for an allowance. Getting good grades? Some kids expect high priced ticketed items for doing a mediocre job. The list goes on and on. It seems as if some will only do things for something in return.
Are we guilty at the Crooked house? Yup.
We are and now we are struggling with getting things done with out getting something in return.
It' s my hope that my child will learn that hard work has to be done and to not always expect some big payoff or reward when the job is done. I hope that his father and I continue to teach him that he has to work hard for his own sense of satisfaction and because it is what he has to do. Hopefully then he will appreciate the little things in return one day.
Until then, let the praising continue. You know what? It doesn't stop at just giving positive praise with children. What about your spouse, co- workers or strangers. Well, I suppose it could go further and more along the lines of giving someone a compliment. Spreading positive thoughts, praise and compliments can be a challenge when things in life get busy, right?
So, my personal challenge for the day, (join along if you so wish) is to stop, think and slow down. Slow down and notice the people in your life. Pay a compliment to someone. Anyone. The clerk who checked you at the grocery store, your child, your husband. Anyone, heck more if you want!
*Dear readers of mine, Don't you look lovely today? Yes. You do. I love you and want to thank you for always taking the time out to visit me. Although I may not respond like I would like, it means a lot that you take time out of your life to share sweet thoughts with me.
and I love that shirt color on you....
Another is to BETH for giving me such an awesome blog-redesign. WOOT! Who doesn't love new digs? I wanted something warm with a romatic flare. I love it and I love her. Beth you are awesome. Thank you