Thursday, April 22, 2010

Screeching halt

If you haven't noticed, my blogging, writing, photo taking has come to a screeching halt.

I'm tired.

I'm walking away for a bit.

(there is a lot on my plate right now and the time simply escapes me, but I'm not throwing in my blogging towel yet. I used to think blogging was a priority, like it HAD to be done. That's changed. I still like doing it, I am just no longer going to go out of my way to make time. If I find time, well great I'll jot down my thoughts. If not...well life goes on. )

My family is more important and at this point in our lives we as a family have things to get on track before I play on the computer during any spare time I actually get.

A few weeks ago my son spoke from his heart and I have to listen. It took major guts for him to share it with me and I owe it to him to comply.

He thinks that I put blogging and my laptop before him.

Folks, that killed me.

Then I took a deep, deep look and in retrospect, I did spend way to much time on the computer in front of him. He didn't get my full attention, after the baby it became even worse.

Personally, I think we probably all spend a little bit too much time plugged into something these days. When is the last time you went out with friends or spouses that someone at the table didn't check their Facebook or twitter or email?


Until I get time carved out for myself at night or on the weekend I have to step away for now
because I'm missing the real life that is in front of me and I'll never get those moments back.

I want to hold on tight to those moments, real tight.


Sidnie said...

What a brave, honest young man you are raising... Cherish that.

Hold on tight.
We all need to hold on tighter.
To focus on the life that's before us, instead of the screen.

Praying for you and your family.
Enjoy them.

Bobbi Janay @When did I go from a kid to a grown up? said...

Girl you do what is best for you and your family.

Mimi's Toes said...

I admire you so much for posting this. Your son is so right. I see so many parents everywhere you look involved in a screen, either in their hand or on their lap and the children are being ignored. It is so sad and breaks my heart. As much as I will miss your posts, I would rather you focus on your priority, your family. I agree with you 100%. I love your son for being so open and honest with you. It's not too late. Love you!

Stacie's Madness said...

kudos...and really, my best wishes to you and your family!

jaime said...

I admire you for taking time away from the computer for your family. One of my resolutions this year was to spend less time on the computer (blogging is usually done on my lunch hour or not at all.) I think everyone can relate to this post, and kudos for your son for speaking up.

keli @ kidnapped by suburbia said...

you and he are so so brave. love you!

Mrs. Cline said...

Good, Good, Good for you. Proud of you for making this decision. Proud of JC for saying something.

Good for you, mama. xo.

We'll be here when you get back. :)

love said...

glad you are doing what is best for your family! you're right, you won't ever get these moments back!

SJ said...

I too am going through something of the sort as well. You go and enjoy your family!

Bacardi Mama said...

Perfectly said. Hold on tight because you do know what's important. You won't get those moments back and I'm so glad you realized it. Enjoy your beautiful family. I'll see you Saturday. Maybe Eden will let me hold her again.

Elaine A. said...

Good for you. It's hard for me to unplug and this is part of the reason why I don't get one of those new fancy phones b/c I know I would do it when I'm out too, if I did.

See you when we see you.

Enjoy that wonderful, beautiful real life of yours! XOXO

JackeeG4glamorous said...

I ditto - good for you!
If I could go backwards in time, I'd go back to when my children were little again and do it all over. I'd forget about dusting and cleaning and all the time I spent reading or talking to my friends on the phone and spend more time just watching them grow and playing with them. Although we all need a little "me" time now and again, these next twenty years or so you can't ever EVER get back. Enjoy!

Erin said...

How seriously brave of him... and how wonderful of you.
I know I am guilty of checking twitter when out (damn iphone), but like you, I've definitely made a conscious effort to limit online time now. I try to blog when they're in bed or at work (shh). It was so easy for me on maternity leave to sit down to nurse Tommy a zillion times and click onto Twitter, without realizing how it was probably effecting Luke.

imadramamama said...

I know exactly where you are coming from.

And you have an amazing son.

~Mendie~ said...

I think you are doing the right thing, sounds like it feels right. We will be around when you feel like venting or sharing. Until then, enjoy your freetime with your family. You are a lucky woman and its great to see you take time to enjoy the everyday things!

Amy M. said...

oh, how i understand where you're coming from.
*feel better*
still want to have a playdate one of these weekends...we must gather a group and have a BBQ, no?

Cure or Bust said...

I've got a similar nagging feeling, too, and I'm seriously considering a summer hiatus. Even if I did blog on occasion in those months, just for me, mentally, knowing I'd declared myself "off blogging duty" for a month or two would help me get my priorities in order and give my kids the summer I really want 'em to have. Cheers to you and I hope the time away brings you and your family some very happy, relaxed, productive time together. Hugs and kisses to all of you.

Adventures In Babywearing said...

What insight JC has to confess that to you.

I understand, and I hold you in my heart.

It's hard when my online friends fall away, because often that's the only time I get to hear about their lives. For me, it's my job. Sometimes I forget it's not the same for everyone else.


Stillmary said...

Sometimes it's hard to get these wake-up calls but you're so smart for paying. You're making a good decision to step away from your computer a little bit BUT I find that if I have something important to say, it only takes me a minute or two to bang out a post. It's when I try to think of something to write about that I spend a lot of time in front of this screen. I'm just sayin' "I hope we'll still hear from you from time to time".

Lost A Sock said...

Gosh it is so rough to maintain the balance. This is how I end up writing entries at 1am and never commenting on blogs of friends. Such a great mom you are, to be so in tune with your kids and what they need. We'll be here.

Mel said...

I commend you and look forward to hearing about the wonderful moments you are creating while you are not here. What a brave and honest boy you're raising! Enjoy your family time.

chrissy said...

there ya go, makin' sense! Living life is MUCH better and more right, than writing about it! Good for you! I'll keep checking back and when you post, you post and when you don't, you don't! I promise not to be angry with you!

It's a Beautiful Ride said...

Proud of you for acknowledging his feelings and acting on them. It's hard to balance being a wife and mom. Throw in some technology and it's all down hill from there!

I used to feel bad because I lost touch with many because of my lack of blogging, tweeting, and connecting. But then I realized, that I shouldn't. It's a 2 way street.

What did we (society) do before blogs and tweets. Facebook etc. I'm sure you'll be pleasantly surprised by all the connectedness you'll get when it's live and in person.

Go get em' girl!

Heather D said...

You are a strong woman and I'm proud of you for doing what you need to do. xo

*Lissa* said...

Love you, girl! And mad props to you for listening to your boy. :) xoxo